RECIPE 1 (THE MAGIC INGREDIENT!)

i learnt long ago of a word that many people tend to forget to say when in situations with their partners. in face it has been widely rumoured that the refusal to say these words can be one of the singular reasons we have so many broken relationships.

"I'M SORRY" some persons refer to it as the Magic wand in a relationship or the magic word, if there ever was to be any combination of words that keeps a relationship on the right part it is these two

"I'M SORRY". You can't be too proud not to say it when you are guilty and even in occasions when you are not guilty say it still it doesn't reduce your pedestal or personality. Study has shown (don't ask me by whom, where or when ooo) that majority of times when hurt people listen to "I'M SORRY" it doesn't matter if you hear words like I would never do it again or that's the last time or many other words of repentance, the simplicity of these two words usually provides comfort for the grieving/hurt/wronged person.

now a quick one to some people who would say but i didn't do anything wrong? but your partner feels grieved/hurt/wronged right? it still doesn't mean, you need to learn to use the magic words. You and I know saying I am sorry or apologizing for something you did not do hurts but say it anyway if that's the sacrifice you give to keep your relationship going then its worth it, saying it wouldn't take away your dignity.(or would it? i seriously doubt. but if it does then you need to do some growing up and fast!)

however, If you are guilty then you must be ready to say "I AM SORRY " as many times as possible until your mate gets to reason with you. 

No relationship is flawless, so don't expect too much just pray to God in hoping for the best for you and your partner and prepare your heart to forgive when the worst arises.

note that some people might not be able to come all out and say the words but resort to buying cards or gitf items, well, to me if your spouse takes you to a beach and you see this written on the sand by the seashore... i think he has said it well enough(maybe he's too shy to talk. lolz)

FACT

(A soft answer turneth away wrath.)

GODLY RELATIONSHIP RECIPE

Relationships and sex happen to be the most talked about topics in today's world especially amongst youth circles, and yet there is still so much shadow surrounding these issues. like i always maintain, a relationship should lead towards marriage and if that's not the plan then i wonder at the purpose of the relationship.

many peeps just wanna have fun and move on... if you're in that category you can politely take your leave, but for those who really wanna do things God's way then you're welcome to this Series, over the next few weeks we'll be examining receipies for a Godly relationship and how we can make our relationship blossom into an expected end(marriage)

first things first

introductory recipe

There is a difference between getting in a relationship and getting on it. 

Remember the word " IN" and " ON". 

Once you are in a relationship the mentality that you are in it with someone helps you understand that you can no longer take decisions on your own, the idea of "self" is now obsolete, everything you do will have to carry the word "Us". Its not totally about you any more. When you are getting on a relationship the mentality differs, because its like riding on a bike, the rider is in charge so also it is with getting on a relationship. The idea is that its all about you, you are the special one either because of your looks, your brain or your wealth and money either way you are in total control. People who ride on their relationship sometimes do it on purpose because its a part of who they are or unknowingly because do not know themselves well and such people don't know they are bossy or controlling as well. Getting on a relationship means you mount them, grab them by the hair, and start kicking the relationship on the sides until you get What you want. Jesus got in a relationship with His disciples, this is the reason the soldiers couldn't differentiate Him from them during the arrest. Get in a relationship today not on it so your spouse can be your equal not your servant. 

Fact

EPISTLE... ACCORDING TO EFFIZEY

LONG AGO MY PARENTS WOULD BEAT 'nonsense' OUT  OF ME FORCING ME TO READ MY BIBLE. INFACT IN OUR HOUSE IT GOT TO A POINT THAT TO GET EXTRA FOOD YOU NEEDED TO COME UP WITH MEMORY VERSES.  (so the size of your food depended on the verses of scripture you could quote. u go fear as me and my siblings turn bible scholars na. even some pastors nor fit match me at age 8. me wey i like food...

till today i still remember those memory verses.) 
HOWEVER  AS I GREW UP I DISCOVERED THAT SCRIPTURES HAVE A WORD IN SEASON AND FOR EVERY PART OF THE BIBLE THERE IS SOMETHING TO BE LEARNT. SO I SAT BACK AND FOUND OUT THAT...

Whatever is in Matthew, Matters a lot, 

Whatever is in Mark, Mark it down,

 Whatever is in Luke; Look at it properly, 

Whatever is in John; Join them to do it. 

Whatever is in Acts; Act like that, 

The book of Romans teaches you to romance with the Holy Spirit,

Corinthians should not be left for only the Choristers, 

Galatians should be chewed like sweet Gala, 

Ephesians should be eaten like spicy Fish, 

Philippians should be Felt from the whole of your being,

Colossians teaches you it is okay to 'Colo' for Christ, 

Thessalonica teaches the importance of Testimonials, 

Timothy teaches to join a Team in church, 

Titus teaches us to Tighten our hold on God, 

Philemon is not as bitter as Lemon, 

Hebrews can be Brewed like your cup of daily coffee, 

James is not about Games, 

Peter would help you when you're in the Pit, 

Once again whatever is in John, Join them to do it,

 Jude should be followed Judiciously, 

And as for #Revelation, 

Jehovah Effizey will reveal it unto you.

I BELIEVE

I believe-

That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.

I believe-

That just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

I believe-

That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I believe-

 That it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive you

I believe-

That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I believe-

That just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other, And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I believe-

That you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I believe-

That two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I believe-

That your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I believe-

That even when you think you have no more to give, when a  friend cries out to you - you will find the strength to help.